Signs Of Being The Needy One In A Relationship And How To Control It
We all need someone to lean on, and emotional dependence is significant in a relationship, but there is a thick line between good-neediness and being over needy.
Being clingy or too dependent on your partner can turn a beautiful relationship sour.
It would help if you were dependent on your partner in a healthy way, where you both can communicate your fears and be together without pressure on each side; that’s good neediness, but being too needy, on the other hand, suffocate and make your relationship less healthy.
Watch out for the following signs as they indicate that you are too needy in your relationship:
- You always want them beside you
Always wanting your partner beside you is cool, but when you can’t spend a day or even a few hours without your partner, that could mean you are too needy.
No matter how close you both are, the need for personal space needs to be respected, but if you see that as a sign that they don’t love you or have someone else, well, that’s you being too needy.
- You are irrationally jealous
Insecurities and feelings of possessiveness result in jealously. If you are irrationally jealous when your partner is out with friends or talk to the opposite sex, that’s a clear sign of being clingy, and that’s not a good thing.
- You think all they need is you
Hello? Yea, your partner’s world doesn’t need to revolve around you for them to love you.
If you don’t want them socializing with family, friends or try to control whom they can and can not mingle with, your neediness is on the high side.
- You try to change them
You have this image of an ideal partner, but your current partner doesn’t quite fit the picture, so you try to force them into it; that’s a no. Changing their ideas, hobbies, habits to match your ideal image can signify you are clingy.
- You try to control your partner
It is the clearest sign of being too needy, trying to control your partner.
You make the choices for them, make them feel they must please you and make you happy, make them feel guilty even when you are at fault; that’s one sign of over-neediness.
- You don’t trust them
You secretly read your partner’s text message, listen to their calls, or go as far as stalking them, which makes you obsessed with them and clingy. It might mean that you are too needy and have trust issues.
How To control Being The Needy One In A Relationship
So now to the solution, the following tips can help overcome clinginess in a relationship.
- Boost your self-esteem
Be the best version of yourself, know yourself, like yourself, then love yourself. Do things that make you happy, take up new hobbies, inspire and grow yourself that way, stop worrying about what people think of you, and think of yourself more.
- Develop trust
Trust doesn’t happen overnight; it is built by the two parties involved. So take some time to build trust in your relationship through your words and actions. Let your communication be open, don’t hide your feelings from each other, share your fears and weakness, and appreciate your growth and efforts.
- Respect each other’s space
Respect each other’s space, always being around each other with no time to meet up with friends or enjoy hobbies can be pretty suffocating. So when your partner asks for freedom, respect that.
- Embrace your independence
You are responsible for your happiness, make your choices, accept yourself and follow your instincts. Believe in your ability to make intelligent decisions and learn from past mistakes.
- Know your self-worth
When you attach value to yourself, you will not be so quick to settle for less. Your identity and self-worth don’t depend on your partner; learn to love and appreciate yourself more and be more comfortable in your skin.
I hope these tips are helpful. Over-neediness can be dealt with by self-love and respecting your partner’s independence and individuality.